Sunday, May 14, 2006


I've spoken in the past about TRAVEL issues, but there is one aspect that involves planes, trains and automobiles which is oftentimes overlooked. Why? Because it is SO obvious.

WEATHER becomes a major factor in any bride's wedding planning--no matter whether the affair is indoors or outdoors. In most cases, guests are coming from far and wide in order to attend the event, and snow, sleet, rain and hail affect not only your guests' ability to arrive on time in the actual state/city in which the event is located--but ALSO to get to the ceremony/reception on time AND in one piece.

On many levels, yes, your guests are grown-ups and can take care of themselves. However, if you can accommodate your friends and family and think of thoughtful gestures in order to address these issues, all the better. These little "touches" are all consistent with being a thoughtful bride and a good listener (especially to the weather forecast the weekend before your wedding!)

"TOUCH 1": Suppose Sam Champion of WABC news in New York predicted that it was going to be pouring rain the weekend of my wedding (which, of course, is all hypothetical--particularly because I am not engaged!) If that were the case, I certainly would think that my guests would check the forecast themselves before flying or driving to the affair. However, some may not. If I were blocking out rooms for guests in different hotels (which many brides-t0-be do), and leaving my guests gift baskets for their hotel rooms as a welcome to them (as, again, many brides-to-be do), why not get mini-umbrellas in pretty colors to put in the basket? A small gesture, but I'm sure, much appreciated--particularly for those who completely forgot to bring their umbrellas--and would have to scurry to find a Duane Reed or CVS and pick one up.

"TOUCH 2": One important point is to make sure that your guests are covered--in terms of transportation to and from the ceremony/reception. Even if guests check the weather before the weekend of the wedding, it's always difficult to predict whether or not your attire will be warm/cool enough based on that quick-check. (How many times have I gone to a party/wedding/etc. and been FREEZING cold because I didn't anticipate how cool it would be during the evening? Not to mention when it started raining?) If your guests are traveling from out of town, keep in mind that some people may be relying on cabs to get them around (instead of renting cars). If this is the case, *make sure* that taxis (in your city/town) are reliable means of transportation, and that your guests will not be left out in the cold trying to hail one down. I live in Manhattan, and I can tell you that it's not that hard to get a cab. HOWEVER, on Saturday evening in certain areas of the city (particularly downtown in the West Village), it definitely takes longer. THIS-- in Manhttan, one of the largest cities in the world! Therefore--make sure that, particularly on a wedding weekend where rain is predicted--and particularly in a location where taxis aren't the easiest to hail (to and from an event), your guests are covered (literally and figuratively). It may seem minute and silly (and yes, people CAN take care of themselves), but your guests will appreciate the heads-up in advance about the taxi situation--AND the weather forecast--in advance (and the fact that you provided them with other options!)

"TOUCH 3": This one may sound familiar--at least to those of you who aren't blessed to have pin-straight hair. You travel to an exotic destination. You get to the hotel, armed with your super-deluxe hair-dryer, ready to face the frizzies that are inevitable at the exotic locale. You get to your room and realize that your hairdryer doesn't work (as the Caribbean doesn't have the same electric plugs as the United States/France or wherever you are coming from). And you scream out loud as you try the dinky hotel hairdryer which does nothing to alleviate the frizzies. This situation can easily translate not only to Spring Break trips but to destination weddings. While not everyone chooses to have their wedding in the Bahamas, there may be some of you out there that have planned such a wedding, or are toying with the notion. Definitely beautiful, but the weather raises some issues for female guests in attendance (I would say at least 90% of them--as humidity does nothing to help our hair-dos). Therefore, come prepared. Arm yourself with ADAPTERS/CONVERTERS for people to use, and hair-dryers and straighteners that you know will work in that particular location (or have your wedding planner or hotel look into quality devices in advance of your getting down there for the big day). Make sure that your female friends and family are taken care of, and that you provide them with hairdryers that work--or at least devices that will allow them to use what they brought with them. This sounds incredibly stupid, but believe me, I would be SO GRATEFUL in that situation, knowing what my hair would look like in that humidity and heat. This would also be the case in a foreign country--I was in Paris in September, and my travel hairdryer did NOTHING to prevent frizzies--this was in September--can you imagine what my hair would look like in the summer!?! Since I've already spoken to the fact that destination weddings are oftentimes smaller affairs, it's not as difficult to look after those that are going to be at the event. Remember that these things are not hard to do--you just have to do them. And your guests will thank you for it.

These little Touches are ways of reaching your guests and ensuring that you think about them in advance of the big day--keeping in mind the way that weather can affect each and every person. These may be obvious things, but WEATHER is always obvious--therefore, it's easy to overlook yet must be kept in mind.

Stay tuned!

1 comment:

Dataceptionist said...

I must say, that whilst guests would be appreciative of these things, I think buying adaptors for people who are too silly to have organised them, or even providing them with straighteners etc is completely going above and beyond the call!! I mean, if you're talking about your German rello's who have come to your country and neglected this item then feasibly you could provide them with this. But when you're talking about a destination wedding in which everyone is travelling, then it's a bit rich to say you have to provide all your guests with such things. Maybe I'm just being mean, but a little common sense on the part of the guests can go a long way too. Be prepared anyone?

Aside from that, I've just finished reading all the archives and I think you've got some great things to say tWF! I'll be adding this page to my daily check!!