Tuesday, June 06, 2006


I'd like to take this fourth post as a clarification about and conclusion to the issues I've described that relate to music....

One must remember that CIRCUMSTANCE is part and parcel of all of the "fun" stuff that happens (or doesn't happen) at your wedding as relates the band or DJ.

For example, the story I described about Madison is very similar to another one I just heard the other day from my friend Eric, since I had broached the subject with him in quest of more good stories (and, his having gone to like nine weddings this past year, I knew he would have 'em!). At his friend's wedding, apparently there was supposed to be soft piano music while the courses were served -- and the band was supposed to play dance music in between. Eric heard from the best man, later in the evening, that the cocktail hour lasted too long, and to make up time, they served food faster so they decided to have soft music playing in between meals instead. Then, the band came back after dessert, and the dancing started thereafter.

Like Madison's fortuitous experience, Eric's friend ended up getting lucky that the crazy band music and high energy came towards the end of dinner -- and wasn't broken up in between the meals -- why was it lucky? Because as Eric mentioned to me, the mass of guests, for the most part, was fairly young -- the "oldest" couples at the affair were middle-age, and seldom (if any) elderly grandmas, grandpas, and great aunts/uncles were in attendance. Therefore, having so much "fast" dancing in a longer period of time worked out well--while if there were older people, there would probably have been more "slow" dancing and the "mood" may have been different.

The way Eric described it, the wedding was like a dinner party for an hour and a half (the meal), and then a dance party for two to three hours (post-meal).

What does this story have to do with circumstance, you ask? This wouldn't have happened if the cocktail hour were ON TIME -- if the cocktail hour had ended when it was supposed to, then the evening would have turned out differently.

Would fewer people have danced? Don't know. Does this mean people wouldn't have as good of a time? Probably not.

HOWEVER, it's important to remember that EACH situation (i.e. your wedding compared to someone else's) is UNIQUE, and EACH situation will not necessarily work out as planned. While it's important to plan and get everything in order, it's equally important (if not more) to remember that the chips will fall as they may..... and you can't know if that's a bad thing!

Keeping CIRUMSTANCE in mind, as well as the concepts from my last posts (communication with the band, being aware of the composition of your guests, any not stressing if things DON'T go as planned), will help you tackle many of the music issues that arise.....

Stay tuned!

1 comment:

Dataceptionist said...

HI wedding fairy, I just wanted to re-iterate that I check your blog every day! : )
Also, my brother and his wife decided not to have any music at their reception and they covered over the dance floor, which I found particularly weird, but different strokes for different folks. I convinced them in the end to have a least a little mood music and played a collection of my Cd's during the lunch for background music (Il Divo, Amici, Andrea Bocelli etc, nothing for dancing and not in your face)