Thursday, June 29, 2006
MUSINGS ON THE MISCELLANEOUS: PART IV
Wow. What a week. With an endless amount of work to do, it seems like I'll never work my way out of the piles and piles that are collecting dust on my desk.
What am I getting at? I'm not really sure. Just letting off steam, really. But, I thought that I'd tie my venting about long hours at the office (and associated stress level) into a comparison of the stress that accompanies planning a wedding.
I haven't yet experienced planning a wedding, but I've seen friends and family members in the throes of the wedding planning process. And one thing I've seen is that many brides-to-be have virtual meltdowns when it comes to the little details, as well as the larger picture.
I guess I'm pondering the overarching question of WHY planning causes so much stress -- as much as it's a lot of work, isn't it supposed to be FUN?
I can definitely say the same about work. Why am I so high strung about things? Shouldn't I be enjoying what I do?
Both questions have different responses because different factors are involved. At work, I have to deal with clients (who are dealing with lots and lots of money). With a wedding, a bride to be is dealing with wedding planners and vendors--but at the end of the day, she has to remember that SHE's the client.
So let's go to the next question: What's the end result?
If something goes wrong at work, I *could* get fired -- but it's highly unlikely. As one of my more senior colleagues has always told me, almost everything can be fixed.
I really believe that the same goes for wedding planning - and guess what? You aren't getting fired -- in fact, you're in the position to be firing others.
In the end, it's (whatever "it" is) not the end of the world. Really -- it isn't. If your centerpieces don't turn out the way you want them (i.e. the flowers are wilting earlier than anticipated)?
You can fix it - and if there isn't enough time or if you simply can't? It's ok.
With work, what happens if you make a mistake? Or something goes wrong? Someone you don't know very well yells at you. With weddings, what happens if your vendor makes a mistake? Either you yell at someone OR you take it. And deal.
I believe in the latter theory -- live and let live. I'm NOT saying lower your standards -- not at all. But it's important to remember what's important in the end -- and hold fast to that.
I've come to the conclusion that the follies and foibles that occur really should not be the cause of supreme stress -- while I may say that now, I have to remember that when I return to the office tomorrow.
For the sake of your friends and family (who will be your guests at the wedding), I would keep that in mind during the wedding planning process. No, I haven't planned my own. But I've seen far too many people I know succumb to this absurd level of pressure, and I've lost a friend as a result of complete narrow mindedness in terms of wedding planning.
Believe me. You'll have your moments. But smiling instead of tearing your hair out about a mistake is a lot better way to live your life - both in the office and out.