Saturday, July 08, 2006


"A sign of celebrity is that his name is often worth more than his services."
--Daniel J. Boorstin
Interesting quote. Perhaps a little harsh--but it's an intriguing statement, and is the introduction of my latest post on celebrity culture and weddings.
In my efforts to delve deeper into the world of weddings (and the subject matter that is part and parcel of my blog), I've picked up a few magazines for inspiration--BRIDES, MODERN BRIDES, and a few others. One of them I found particularly noteworthy was WEDDINGS: IN STYLE -- which had a feature on weddings/brides/brides and weddings, and of course "CELEBRITY" weddings/brides/brides and weddings.

As I flipped through the various pages about celebrity weddings--including details about ER actor Erik Palladino's swanky ceremony/reception on the Hawaiian island of Kauai (and his bride's Monique Lhullier gown) and hints about where to stay in Rome on your honeymoon if you want to live like Madonna or Leonardo DiCaprio--I was both fascinated and disgusted.

What is the origin of our lurid fascination with what celebrities do, and why do we concern ourselves with the details of what these people decide upon for their own celebrations?

When I say "we", I'm obviously generalizing a TAD. I know that many people don't think that celebrity style is the gospel, and many people actually believe that it's a waste of time and energy to even read or think about what superstars are doing.

But I'll admit that I find it enjoyable to read IN STYLE -- I won't lie. If I used the same baker for my wedding cake as Liv Tyler, would I think it was cool? Probably. Do I sometimes pick up PEOPLE magazine, and have TallGuy tell me it's trash? Yep.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I understand society's interest in celebrities--but I would emphasize the importance of realizing that in planning your wedding, you can certainly look at what celebrities are doing in terms of their own celebrations--but their world is a completely unrealistic one, and there should be no COMPARISONS made.

It may sound silly, and surely no bride is sitting down with these magazines, thinking to herself "Sigh, I wish my wedding looked like [Insert your favorite married celebrity name here]'s"...
However, people DO take stock in what celebrities say -- didn't Jessica Simpson write some sort of "HOW TO" wedding guide? Whether her advice is good or not, guess what? She's divorced--so no matter how many thousands or millions of dollars one spends on their wedding, or how trendy or stylish it may be, the important part is the underlying idea of it lasting. And in the end, it's YOURS -- so remember that and hold fast to that concept.

One of my close girlfriends (Jill) told me a story about her friend Sue, a sorority sister from college. Sue was excitedly telling Jill about a particular "find" -- for the tables at the reception, Sue ordered certain "favors" for her guests -- stylishly packaged macaroons made by Sandra Bullock's sister. Apparently, Ms. Bullock's sister has a bakery in Vermont. I asked Jill how the macaroons were -- and if they were anything special. "No, not really. They were fine - nothing great. I think Jill was more excited about the fact that they were "related" to Sandra Bullock --rather than the actual quality of the macaroon!"

And where did Sue find the macaroons? IN STYLE -- according to Jill.

As you plan your wedding, remember that it's fine to read the magazines to see what celebrities are doing, but it's important to note that YOUR DAY is special because YOU are creating it -- and your style will be appreciated by your guests because they love YOU -- while we may be interested in reading about the flowers at Sarah Michelle Geller's wedding, celebrity culture is fun to read about because it's superficial and unrealistic -- and therefore, your wedding should be a reflection of your taste - and that should be more than good enough for you - and your guests!

Stay tuned!


Twistie said...

So with you on this. Too many women seem to think their weddings will be pathetic if they don't rival that of (fill in the blank recently married celebrity).

Peruse the pics for cool ideas about color schemes, dress lines, and funky fun extras, by all means, but do remember to scale them down to fit your budget. If the scaled-down version is going to look cheap and tacky, find inspiration elsewhere.

Most of all, consult your own taste, interests, and relationship. You'll be amazed at what interesting things you can find to emphasize about you and your relationship if you sit down and stop worrying about how Nichole Kidman or Sarah Jessica Parker chose to handle things.

OTOH, just try to stop me watching a special on celebrity weddings! It's fun to see how the other half lives, as long as you don't forget which side of the fence you're on in financial terms.

And hey, I love macaroons as much as the next girl, but I don't care who bakes them; I care about how they taste.

Katiya said...

I am always in awe when thinking of the concept so many brides-to-be have rigidly instilled within themselves. The one that basically states they are entitled to a world of self-absorption and elitism..Well until further notice of course.
Has our country adopted the caste system, and I just have missed the recent version of the NY times, CSPAN?
You have mentioned throughout your blog the disagreements and controversy continuing to arise between the bride and well.. Everyone..
I always believed that as a bride, it is an HONOR that my closest friends and family to attend and share this moment with ME. It should be me and my fiancé of course thanking them. Keeping things in perspective, THESE are your guests who have changed travel plans, rearranged their lives, spent an entirely large amount of their hard earned salaries to be with us on our special day.
We as a society have always associated weddings with magic, purity, romance, and an overall enchantment.. Let’s face it, there is nothing remotely enchanting or magical about forcing your supposed closest friends to dress in an horrifying, alarming (and expensive) amount of imported tulle in rosebud pink and allowing them to sport this century's version of the beehive.. in PUBLIC. In addition, of course we believe that these designer dresses can be so versatile so it is worth the money! ..(Let’s face it; they are only good for throw pillow and maybe a placemat or two..)
I cannot seem to find any reason to justify the temper tantrums (I have witnessed myself as I dashed to avoid flying cake platters and salad plates..Now this was a great way to advertise for pottery barn as their “enchanted forest” pattern is flying above your head; but let’s try to avoid the injuries) over such asinine and trivial items/ideas such as..Napkin rings, place cards, and the order in which the food should be served Your wedding is not a wedding without those who are close to you ( and those who do not have an extended family do not understand the support and sense of belonging that comes with familial interaction. It will also not be a glam wedding your bridesmaid's announce their refusal to attend due to the consistent absurd proposals delivered by the Bride to Be, and the family's act of reevaluating who is eligible to attend, because it seems unanimous that only those who are able to report and read Kafka are invited.. Luckily, in my family, the majority of children are gifted and can read Kafka at an alarming young age..

Anonymous said...

My favorite thing about the celebrity weddings magazine? How many of them are divorced by the time the issue runs.

I did like In Style weddings for ideas because it was not as full of ads as other magazines. Why charge $9.95 for a magazien that is nothing but ads?