--Daniel J. Boorstin
- Interesting quote. Perhaps a little harsh--but it's an intriguing statement, and is the introduction of my latest post on celebrity culture and weddings.
As I flipped through the various pages about celebrity weddings--including details about ER actor Erik Palladino's swanky ceremony/reception on the Hawaiian island of Kauai (and his bride's Monique Lhullier gown) and hints about where to stay in Rome on your honeymoon if you want to live like Madonna or Leonardo DiCaprio--I was both fascinated and disgusted.
What is the origin of our lurid fascination with what celebrities do, and why do we concern ourselves with the details of what these people decide upon for their own celebrations?
When I say "we", I'm obviously generalizing a TAD. I know that many people don't think that celebrity style is the gospel, and many people actually believe that it's a waste of time and energy to even read or think about what superstars are doing.
But I'll admit that I find it enjoyable to read IN STYLE -- I won't lie. If I used the same baker for my wedding cake as Liv Tyler, would I think it was cool? Probably. Do I sometimes pick up PEOPLE magazine, and have TallGuy tell me it's trash? Yep.
I guess what I'm getting at is that I understand society's interest in celebrities--but I would emphasize the importance of realizing that in planning your wedding, you can certainly look at what celebrities are doing in terms of their own celebrations--but their world is a completely unrealistic one, and there should be no COMPARISONS made.
It may sound silly, and surely no bride is sitting down with these magazines, thinking to herself "Sigh, I wish my wedding looked like [Insert your favorite married celebrity name here]'s"...
However, people DO take stock in what celebrities say -- didn't Jessica Simpson write some sort of "HOW TO" wedding guide? Whether her advice is good or not, guess what? She's divorced--so no matter how many thousands or millions of dollars one spends on their wedding, or how trendy or stylish it may be, the important part is the underlying idea of it lasting. And in the end, it's YOURS -- so remember that and hold fast to that concept.
One of my close girlfriends (Jill) told me a story about her friend Sue, a sorority sister from college. Sue was excitedly telling Jill about a particular "find" -- for the tables at the reception, Sue ordered certain "favors" for her guests -- stylishly packaged macaroons made by Sandra Bullock's sister. Apparently, Ms. Bullock's sister has a bakery in Vermont. I asked Jill how the macaroons were -- and if they were anything special. "No, not really. They were fine - nothing great. I think Jill was more excited about the fact that they were "related" to Sandra Bullock --rather than the actual quality of the macaroon!"
And where did Sue find the macaroons? IN STYLE -- according to Jill.
As you plan your wedding, remember that it's fine to read the magazines to see what celebrities are doing, but it's important to note that YOUR DAY is special because YOU are creating it -- and your style will be appreciated by your guests because they love YOU -- while we may be interested in reading about the flowers at Sarah Michelle Geller's wedding, celebrity culture is fun to read about because it's superficial and unrealistic -- and therefore, your wedding should be a reflection of your taste - and that should be more than good enough for you - and your guests!