Hmmm. Slip of the tongue? Foot in mouth? Curious.
It's a good question that the reader asks, and unfortunately it's difficult to give a definitive answer, since I don't know the brides-to-be in question.
Nevertheless, I've experienced the "being-invited to a wedding just for the gift- syndrome" -- when I was in college, I was invited to a wedding of a long lost high school friend. Mind you, we were somewhat close in high school, but we COMPLETELY lost touch for 4 years after that, and I really didn't speak with her after graduation. Imagine my surprise when I received a wedding invitation--out of the blue--to this girl's wedding!! The wedding, also, was completely across the country (In Washington State - I live in New York), so I had to think she knew I wouldn't be attending. FYI - I never sent a gift - I was extremely put off by that type of blatant behavior, and I didn't think it necessitated a response.
Having said that, it sounds like the reader is still close with these women, and she still keeps in touch with them--since she is in communication with them, I really would think that their comments were more of slip of the tongue/foot in the mouth than a hint that they were only looking for gifts.
Let's hope so. I would let it go, and see if anything else "fishy" comes up along the way.
Sometimes, you never know what brides to be are thinking -- but I do hope that most brides are considerate enough to try and be gracious--even if that graciousness doesn't always translate correctly.
The Wedding Fairy is going to be visiting TallGuy's adorable niece and nephew (4 and 6, respectively) tomorrow, so I will be back with more early next week. Sorry for the spotty showing the past few days--work has been a little much!! So please stay with me... and stay tuned!