Sunday, October 22, 2006

"THERE'S NO CRYING IN BASEBALL": A LESSON FOR THE AGES

I hate to quote a New York Yankee, but Yogi Berra--when it came to baseball--said it best: "It ain't over till it's over."

Well, folks, it is really, truly OVER for The New York Mets this year--and it was a hell of a season.

As you may know, I like to analogize situations related to wedding planning (i.e. the raw emotion, stress, and pleasure that results) with my experiences with sporting events.
Why? As I've explained before, sports are part of our social fabric, and they're something to which most people can relate.

This year, the New York Mets proved to me what baseball is all about--class, joy for the game, and pure athleticism (unmarred by whisperings/rumors about steroid abuse and use of other banned-substances). Every member of the team--from the franchise players (Beltran, Delgado) to the young guns (Wright, Reyes) contributed, busted his butt, and made every Met fan proud to say that they cheer in Flushing--not in the Bronx.

What I learned from this season is that no matter how hard you try, or how badly you want it (players and fans included), things may not necessarily work out the way they should.

This was the METS' year. After the Yankees fell short in the first round of post-season play, it was the METS' turn to shine, earning a place in the hearts and minds of New Yorkers.

I was at Game 7 at Shea Stadium. I can tell you that it felt like the Mets were destined to beat the Cardinals, particularly after Endy Chavez made a sparkling defensive play (with a unbelievable over the fence catch, robbing Cardinals' Rolen of a 2 run home run)--the likes of which have been season maybe ONCE OR TWICE in a baseball game--post season or otherwise.

Despite that play, it didn't happen. I don't know WHAT happened. The Mets, despite having an unbelievable outing out of their unpredicatable rookie pitchers, couldn't get it started--or finished--offensively. With 2 outs, bases loaded, Beltran--the most reliable franchise player the Mets have--went down looking on a beautiful breaking ball. That's just the type of game it was.

Done. With that strike out, the Mets season was over, dreams of a pennant and world series ring quelled.

I kept saying to TallGuy that it wasn't fair.... it wasn't supposed to happen this way. It was THEIR TIME.

What I learned from my disappointment--through my tears--was that no matter how much you want something, no matter how hard you try, no matter how much you believe, sometimes you fall short of your goals. Did the Mets want to get to the next level? Of course. Were they busting their butts to get there? Absolutely.

The other thing I thought about as I spoke to TallGuy was that it was just a game.

"There's no crying in baseball!", TallGuy gently pointed out to me (referring to the classic quote from Tom Hanks' character in A League of Their Own).

You know what? He's right. There IS no crying in baseball.

They did their best, and it was a season to be proud of. That was all I could have asked for--and it made me feel better.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again -- PERSPECTIVE is one of the most important things to have as you plan your wedding.

Sometimes, despite ALL the planning and all the hard work, things don't always go the way they should. It pours on what should be a beautiful, summer day for your outdoor wedding. The caterer is late. The DJ plays Marvin Gaye's "Sexual Healing" even after you expressly told him not to. Your bridesmaid gets s&#* faced before the ceremony and stumbles down the aisle in front of your 250 guests. The hydrangeas are drooping before the reception begins.

During a wedding, almost anything can go wrong, no matter how much you practice and prep, and prep some more. Whether you have a PLAN B, EXIT STRATEGY or LAST DITCH EFFORT lined up, it may not work out the way you want it.

Sometimes, it's just not fair.

As I discovered, though, there IS no crying in baseball. Keep that in mind as you go through the planning process. While I'm NOT saying your day isn't important--and I know how money is spent to make these things happen--"it" - whatever "it" is -- isn't the end of the world. Your wedding will still be one of the most special moments of your life (just as being at Game 7 was one of mine). Unlike the Mets playoffs, which hopefully will happen again next year, you only get one chance to thoroughly enjoy planning for and celebrating your wedding.
Enjoy the moment--live in it and revel in it--because it's fleeting.

Stay tuned! AND one more thing: LET'S GO METS GO LET'S GO METS!

No comments: