Tuesday, February 20, 2007

WHAT SEX AND THE CITY HAS TAUGHT ME ABOUT WEDDINGS: AN INTRODUCTION

I don't know about you guys, but I have a longing on Sunday evenings. There's a small--but present--vacancy in my weekends, which has resulted from my lack of Sex and the City (SATC) fix. While shows like "Dexter" have filled the void, I still miss the frivolous fashion and the fun story lines that SATC provided.

Wedding Fairy, you say -- it's been several years now -- get over it!!

Or, you may say: Wedding Fairy, can't you satisfy yourself with the TBS re-runs, or DVDs you can buy at Border's?

Fair enough, would be my reply.

But there was something truly fun about getting a group of my friends together on a Sunday evening (with ice cream to boot) and seeing what was going on with Carrie, Mr. Big, and the crew (AND seeing what RIDICULOUS shoe purchase Carrie made that day -- and how high her Manolo Blahnik stilettos would be).

In Carrie's quest to find her true love, we learned a lot about weddings (the do's and don'ts according to Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha), as well as the unique links to Manhattan that resulted.

The following series is going to run the gamut (since there are several topics--rather than themes--to discuss), but I think it'll be interesting to see specific "takes" on weddings through the eyes of these women. Sure, they're fictional -- but they also represent independent, strong females (who live in Manhattan -- while I certainly am not writing for the Manhattan woman, I AM one, as are friends who have gotten engaged/married--so I feel like it's relevant here to take that into account). While we all may not be buying Manolos in bulk as Carrie does, why not take a look at weddings from the SATC perspective? And see how far apart from reality these perspectives actually are?

Stay tuned!

Thursday, February 08, 2007

THE PARENTALS (AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS): HOW TO DEAL: PART VII (CONCLUSION)



Based on the comments I've received with respect to the issue of family and weddings, the tension which may result from the predilictions/preferences of family members (with respect to religious aspects of the wedding or otherwise) is not an uncommon issue....

Obviously, there are a range of issues and scenarios, but I have, in my previous points, pointed out a few in order to illustrate certain underlying themes (like that of COMPROMISE, for example, which Megan also pointed out in her comment) that are important to keep in mind.

Remember: these problems aren't just related to your distant relatives (like that of a long-lost cousin, who wants to bring her infant to the wedding--when you have already decided on a NO KIDS policy). Much of this tension can occur within the nuclear family (i.e., with your mother/father when it comes to budget, or the actual style of the wedding), and with your fiance's family (i.e., with your STBMIL and the issues I described in prior posts). Once you recognize where the problems are coming from, you can begin to handle them accordingly.

The best way to handle family members is to KNOW YOUR LIMITS. Know when to stick to your guns (TACTFULLY), and know when to say "UNCLE". Every scenario is different, so unfortunately there's no hard and fast solution. But making sure each scenario is handled with grace and tact is ALWAYS the way to go.

I've really enjoyed reading your comments and hearing about your own experiences with respect to this issue. Bringing your own experiences to the table helps provide a richer discussion, and allows me to visit a host of issues that hopefully will connect with all readers planning their own weddings!

Stay tuned!