Sunday, March 25, 2007

WHAT SEX AND THE CITY TAUGHT ME ABOUT WEDDINGS (PART II)

In an effort to get back to my Sex and the City (SATC) series, I thought I'd begin with a very basic question: When is saying "I DO" a DON'T?

It's interesting to look at the storyline focusing on Carrie and Aidan. Aidan (particularly the "new and improved" -- i.e. clean shaven, buff, Aidan, when Carrie gets back together with him) is adorable. Attentive. Basically, in a nutshell? A teddy bear. And COMPLETELY and UTTERLY into Carrie.

Yet, for some reason, Carrie couldn't fully commit--even when she was fully committed. As a viewer, it made me angry when she began wearing her engagement ring on her necklace. Mr. Big was always somewhere in Carrie's consciousness. She always seemed to want what she couldn't have -- and Mr. Big was the epitome of that idea.

It may not have made sense to viewers (or even to me) why Carrie couldn't give herself completely to Aidan, but I guess it made sense to her. While it wasn't as if she stopped wearing her ring completely, shifting it to her necklace was a way for Carrie to distance herself from the commitment she had just made. Obviously, that was symbolic of her hidden unhappiness. While I'm sure there are women out there who wear rings differently (or not at all) - and are happily engaged - this behavior was indicative of Carrie's hesitance. I loved those particular episodes of SATC because they were very telling about the state of Carrie/Aidan's relationship - and the concept that everything being perfect on paper may not be perfect in real life. I always hope that women getting married do so for the right reasons -- unfortunately, that doesn't always happen, but here's hoping, right?

As for me, I can't stop looking at my ring. It's on my finger (not necklace!), and when I put it on my nightstand before falling asleep, I always make sure it's there before I doze off (I've even woken up in the middle of the night, in a cold sweat, because I forgot I took it off, and was worried I had misplaced it!). I adore it because TallGuy did a wonderful job choosing it, and I absolutely love the ring itself but even more so, I love what it represents. I'm excited for what the future holds, and I'm excited to share it all with you guys!

Stay tuned for more SATC thoughts (next up: the contrast of Charlotte's "perfect" wedding (with Trey), and her "perfectly real" wedding (with Harry)...

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

WE INTERRUPT THIS PROGRAM.... THE WEDDING FAIRY GETS ENGAGED (PART III)

OK, I REALLY need to get back to my Sex and the City wedding post! (First off on that one, just as a little teaser -- what was UP with Carrie wearing Aidan's wedding ring on her necklace? That's one hint that perhaps the concept of commitment is NOT for her!)

Before I do that, though, I'd like to thank everyone for all of the wonderful advice. I'm taking Megan's to heart, especially, as I go through the process of finding a place to have the ceremony/reception. (IE Make a choice, and MOVE ON!)

I've realize that choosing a location is much like looking at colleges -- you kind of know what you want, but there are SO MANY OPTIONS, and everything is SO DAMN EXPENSIVE.

I also realize I'm not exactly helping myself $$ wise by having the wedding in New York City, but that's one thing I really don't want to forego -- I've always envisioned a city wedding, but that also means dropping the idea of having my wedding at the Ritz Carlton, or The Mandarin Oriental. Not going to happen--and that's ok. My dream wedding was at a museum in NYC on museum row--which happens to have been Andrew Carnegie's old mansion. With the $10,000 site fee (on TOP of the $/pp) -- I had to forget that one pretty quickly.

What I realize though: I'll find my way, eventually -- it's EXHAUSTING! I've been to about a dozen places, and I'm pretty sure where I'll end up.... I just want to get that decision over with already--and as Megan said, MOVE ON (without second guessing). One thing I am keeping in mind - not LOSING my mind - just not worth it.

Once I figure it all out, I'll definitely share with you all.... thanks for all the invaluable advice....I really need it!

Stay tuned (I PROMISE for a "regularly scheduled program")!

Monday, March 12, 2007

WE INTERRUPT THIS PROGRAM.... THE WEDDING FAIRY GETS ENGAGED (PART II)

Thanks, ladies! I appreciate the well wishes. I'm super excited, and I couldn't be happier. It was a HUGE surprise to me (though my friends wondered how I had NO idea after 2 and a half years of dating!), which made it that much sweeter.

In terms of planning, I haven't done much, except flipped through my tons of bridal magazines (YES, I DID buy those mags pre-engagement - but I claim it was only with respect to wedding research for the blog!), called a bunch of potential locations, and went to Michael C. Fina for CHINA/FLATWARE/GLASSWARE 101 with my mother (I figure I'll take TallGuy once I get the lay of the land as to what I'm looking for). So far, nothing has clicked in terms of the ceremony/reception site -- I'm getting antsy about it, but I'm trying not to get too concerned (yet) :)

I'm beginning to experience--and fast--that there's a lot to do, ladies! I feel like once I find the place, I'll feel a lot better (or at least less like a chicken running around with her head cut off).

As I mentioned I'm looking to do the ceremony and reception in NYC (both at the same place). I'd LOVE to find somewhere with an outdoor space, or a great view, but it's not a necessity. Something "quintissential NYC" is really what I'm after (something historic, or NYC having its roots in the specific site). I LOVE the idea of the wedding feeling more like a dinner-party, and an intimate affair. We're looking to have between 120-150 people.

Before I get back to posting about the different topics/themes that have been part of my blog since the beginning, I wanted to thank you all again for your comments. I'm sure you all have fabulous advice having gone through the process---or still going through it now---so feel free to pass along any tidbits or pearls of wisdom. I certainly need them!!!!

Stay tuned!

Sunday, March 11, 2007

WE INTERRUPT THIS PROGRAM.... THE WEDDING FAIRY GETS ENGAGED

Hi everyone!

I am very sorry for the mini-hiatus. Work has been crazy crazy crazy, and things have been pretty hectic (though, in a good way).

TallGuy proposed two weekends ago, and I am so thrilled. We are looking to have a wedding in Manhattan in Spring 2008--that's about as far as I've gotten with any ideas! I am happy to share details if anyone wants to hear them, but the point of my blog is--and always has been--about how to help others. As I plan, I am sure there will be interesting elements to share--and problems/issues that I will come across--for which I will need your advice and feedback. As I get started, I want to emphasize that I very much intend to keep up my blog (the whole point of one of my series is not to disappear BECAUSE of your wedding -- wouldn't that be ironic if The Wedding Fairy did that as soon as she started her own planning?!) It's very important to me to TAKE MY OWN ADVICE, and not become "that bride" that I often speak about. Dishing it out is one thing. Being able to DO AS I SAY? That will be the goal!!!

I appreciate your staying with me, and I look forward to sharing my experiences with you. I hope that these experiences will help me--as well as my readers--in terms of how to gracefully handle complicated issues that arise during this exciting time.

Stay tuned!