Friday, September 14, 2007

CHAT FORUMS/MESSAGE BOARDS: TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING?: A CONCLUSION

There are a LOT of new topics and themes that I want to get to, but I thought it was important to wrap up this conversation about message boards.

And what a subject it's been! I'm glad that you guys have voiced your opinions and observations. Everyone obviously has a different story to tell, and experiences to share, so it makes for a more fruitful discussion when I can hear others' recollections.

The bottom line, I think, when it comes to chat forums and message boards: USE THEM AT YOUR OWN RISK--BUT HAVE FUN WHILE YOU DO!!

Sometimes, like Dataceptionist noted, there can be bitchiness abounding on the boards. It's so unnecessary, and frankly, pretty crass for people to make themselves feel better about their own decisions at others' expense. Unfortunately, there will always be bad (and totally unconfident and lame) apples in the bunch. I guess it's something to keep in mind for those of us that are particularly sensitive to (unwarranted) criticism or off-handed remarks that are far from helpful. Of course, one should take everything said on this on-line, anonymous community with a little bit of cautiousness.

On the flip side, as Sarita noted, the boards can be great when people on-line are helpful and friendly, and can provide a fresh perspective.

The most important thing to take away from all of this? No matter WHO says WHAT (whether on-line or in person), your choices are your choices---and as long as you and your fiance are happy with them, then that is all that matters!

Stay tuned!

1 comment:

Dataceptionist said...

Another thing to remember I found when using the boards is that all the girls that you're asking advice from; while they "know what you're going through" in that they usually are honestly interested in helping you choose between fuchia and magenta chair sashes- they are also caught up in the whole microcosm wedding planning process. You need to step back from the conversation and decide whether you can REALLY tell the difference.

Keep up the posting WF!!