Friday, January 18, 2008
ADDRESSING ENVELOPES FOR YOUR INVITATIONS: THAT OLD "PLUS ONE" CONUNDRUM (PART II)
I had put up a poll regarding what you guys think has been the most stressful part of the planning process.
One of the categories up there is trying to figure out guest list issues - to me, this has been one of the most difficult tasks to deal with.
Surprisingly (or unsurprisingly, depending on your experience) this has particularly been the case as relates to my colleagues at work.
What to do?
I have one good friend at my firm, but everyone in my department (about 15 people in a company of about 100) is very friendly, and it's difficult to know where to draw the line.
I decided to invite my good friend-colleague/her husband and my main boss/his wife as the work-related guests.
But what about my other colleagues who I see/talk to every day? And who ask me about the wedding all the time?
Unfortunately, there's not much I can do here. As I'm sure some of you have found, it's either doing the major cut-back with work people -- or inviting too many of them.
Since I'm all about the "PLUS ONE", I would also have to expect that inviting 10 people could inevitably lead to 20 additional folks at the wedding (presuming all were attending).
I think the key is scaling back how much I talk about the wedding at work, and who I choose to talk to ABOUT the wedding. I never share details unless someone asks me, and if colleagues bring up the wedding, I try to downplay and not get into too much discussion. I think that's really the fair way of going about things.
What about you guys? Do you find that inviting people/not inviting people from work becomes a difficult issue? Or do people have blanket rules about not inviting work colleagues?
Every experience is different - again, I have to stay true to what I believe about inviting friends WITH GUEST -- and how that will affect the overall number of people I can end up inviting....