Thursday, October 28, 2010


So I know I normally don't advocate being "that bride" (a/k/a a "Diva"), but I am impressed with Wedding Paper Divas, a seemingly easy and (relatively) cost-effective way to design save the dates and wedding invitations.

I was actually looking for birth announcements through Tiny Prints (, and I noticed they also had a link to wedding invitations -- which brought me to the Wedding Paper Divas website.

I love the layout of the WPD website, and the ability to search by color, theme, and even signature or letterpress invitations. Makes for an easier way to find what you want.

How is this related to avoiding being "that bride", you may ask? :) Not quite sure, really.... but when I see a good site, I like to pass it along for the benefit of all brides-to-be.

In a future post, I am going to revisit certain "do's" and "don'ts" of wedding invitation etiquette. Some of the things I've seen lately have been pretty interesting learning lessons for those in the planning process.

Stay tuned!

Saturday, August 21, 2010


What do you think of this critique of Chelsea Clinton's Vera Wang choice?

It certainly inspires provocative discussion.

For the record, I happen to think that Chelsea's gown was beautiful. She looked understated and elegant, and I didn't expect any less from her. Classic and classy.

Anyway, just a little food for thought reading. Enjoy.

Stay tuned!

Friday, July 30, 2010


Hi guys!

Having just started a new job and being 5 months pregnant (with a little girl!), I have been extremely MIA for a while, and I do apologize for that!

I wanted to get back into the swing of things and talk about finances, as I think that saving money for a wedding isn't just about saving money as the bride and groom-to-be. As a gracious bride, I always ask people to think about how they can keep their guests in mind as they plan.

It may not be as funny and witty as Letterman's Top 10 List, but I do want to give you guys a "Top" list of my own -- the "Top 5 Ways To Save Your Guests Money - And Help Them Maintain Sanity".

5. Choose your Location with Care. If you decide to get married in Tuscany (and most of your friends and family are in the United States, specifically, New York), you can't expect 100% of your guests to be (a) attending or (b) psyched to be attending. A destination wedding can cost at LOT of money for people, between airfare, hotels, and other travel expenditures. So when choosing your wedding location, choose with care. People are likely not able to afford a lavish trip, and doing your wedding more locally - while maybe not quite as exotic as the vineyards in Italy - will certainly save your guests some dough. Not necessarily a reason not to choose that destination, you say? Be my guest - just don't expect all your potential guests to be your guests!

4. No Cash Bars. I cannot speak more plainly. Just don't do them. If you can't afford alcohol, I sincerely believe it's better not to serve any liquor or beer at all. Enough said.

3. Black Tie Optional (Very Optional). A lot of men don't own tuxes. Whenever TallGuy hears that a wedding we'll be attending is NOT black tie, he breathes a little sigh of relief. Even though he has a tux, it's oftentimes crumpled in a ball in his closet, and to have to spend the time and money getting the entire thing cleaned is pricey and annoying. For those *without* tuxes, having to go out and rent one is a major expense. Cocktail attire, or even black-tie optional, on an invitation, gives guests a nice "out" - when a tux is not required, it is oftentimes provides financial relief to your guests.

2. Hotel Blocks or Other Hotel-Related Savings. If your guests will be traveling, definitely make sure that you have done room blocks at several different hotels in the area, in order to make sure guests will be getting discounted rates. And if you know of any good offers or savings your guests can take advantage of, send them along! That's what email is for, and conveying that information informally to your guests is always appreciated.

And, without further ado, the #1 Way to Save Your Guests Money:

1. Don't Overload Your Bridesmaids. There are SOOOOO many financial obligations that come with being a bridesmaid: (1) buying the bridesmaid's dress; (2) pitching in for the bachelorette party; (3) pitching in for the shower preparations; (4) buying the shower gift; (5) paying for extras like hair, makeup, and accessories for the big day.... the list goes on. Bridesmaids are asked to spend a LOT of time and a LOT of money for your wedding. My feeling is that a bride must do whatever she can --- i.e. buying her guests their bridesmaid dresses as their gift, or having a hand in suggesting cheaper alternatives for a bachelorette party -- in order to make finances a bit easier on the wallet.

I hope this list has been helpful and provided some food for thought. I know the pressures of keeping a budget in place for a wedding, so it's often difficult to think about what pressures your guests are feeling. But if you try to keep them in mind, you will also reap the rewards - by having a fun wedding that everyone truly enjoys!

Stay tuned!

Monday, April 19, 2010


Remember that scene in Sex and the City, when Carrie, after the engagement party outside of the Plaza, says her proverbial goodbye to Big? ("Your girl is lovely, Hubbell....")

Ever see North by Northwest? (CLASSIC). Or even Bride Wars? (CLASSICALLY HORRIBLE).

There are so many reasons why the Plaza is a classic piece of New York City's history, and part of its lore. Little girls dream of getting married here, or even getting to have tea here.

Today is my 31st birthday, and that's what my mom and I did. We had tea in the Palm Court. Although the Plaza now looks different and is under new ownership, the magic of the Palm Court remains. The beautiful cathedral ceilings and the stained glass windows remain, and so does the sense of the tradition. Today, there was still that little girl in her party dress, sitting and having tea with her father--reminding me much of the fictional Eloise.

I bring up the Plaza because I think it's such a quintessential part of the "NYC Experience" - both for non-New Yorkers and New Yorkers alike.

For those of us who cannot afford to have a dream NYC wedding here, there are other ways to be a part of the history. I was thinking that a wedding shower would be absolutely LOVELY to have here -- the room is so huge, it's not as if one would have to rent it out (and pay ridiculous rental fees to boot), and the prices--at least for light lunch/dessert/tea--were reasonable, per person. Again, I'm not sure if pricing would change for a larger party -- but it seemed to me a doable arrangement. Plus, the staff is extremely accommodating, so I imagine they would be a pleasure to deal with.

Just food for thought (literally). It was a really special birthday for me to spend with my mom (I am in between jobs, so am off work this week - a nice day to be off, for sure!) I think for any little girl who dreams to have her wedding in New York City, the Plaza is a sure bet for wonderful memories. Having a shower here, in my opinion, would be a wonderful way to experience quintessential New York at its best. And I'm SURE guests would be absolutely thrilled to partake!

Stay tuned!

Wednesday, April 07, 2010


To herald the recent launch of DexKnows Weddings, which is a online resource for brides, the contest offers four couples the chance to win $10,000 each towards their upcoming wedding. The contest started yesterday, and couples can enter to win on or on the DexKnows Weddings Facebook fan page, by sharing what recessionista inspiring alternatives they plan to use at their wedding.

Just click on the text of this blog post to get to the contest!!

The idea is to think style but frugality -- ideas should be creative and embody the idea of the recessionista (for example, gebera daisies instead of roses).

Celebrity wedding planner Yifat Oren will pick the most creative finalists, and winners will be chosen by online public voting.

Couples must be planning to get married after June 1, 2010 and before June 1, 2012.

I think this sounds like a fun contest, and particularly relevant given what we've been dealing with in this economy.

Have fun, and get creative!

Stay tuned!


Hi guys,

My friends at the Wedding Channel are in the middle of an awesome contest where the two most "popular" wedding websites will win $1,000 each. All brides have to do is ask their friends and family to check out their wedding website as much as possible.

There's no voting - the two wedding websites with the most "visits" by the end of April 21 wins $1,000 each!

Here’s a link to more information:

I hope you guys find this helpful! TallGuy and I used the Wedding Channel for our registry/wedding website, and I know we found it super helpful in terms of organizing, etc. An organized bride is a non-stressed bride, and a non-stressed bride will not be "that" bride!!!

Stay tuned!